Things I have learned this year
Think of your fellow man, lend him a helping hand, put a little love in your heart ♥️
As I have said before, many people do not like end of year reflection lists and that is because ultimately they find the idea of you taking yourself seriously upsetting. That’s either because their own self esteem prevents them from taking themselves seriously so it’s painful for them to see others do so, or because they don’t think you deserve to take yourself seriously. Either way, it’s bullshit. You crack on and do what you like. I personally love reading an end of year reflection. Bring them on.
Things I have learned this year, as ever, written in the second person because that’s how my brain works, not because it’s advice for you personally:
It is absolutely terrifying to believe yourself to be loved by others because it is absolutely terrifying to be vulnerable. It’s not accurate to describe it as a leap of faith because that sounds like you do it once and it’s over. It’s a never ending tightrope walk over a chasm of doom. Just keep your eyes fixed forward. The chasm of doom is not going anywhere, just make peace with the chasm of doom and have a nice time titting about on a tightrope.
Life is full of endings and they do not all have to be sad. Some endings are natural and it’s ok to find joy in them.
You have more capacity for patience than you think. It’s a muscle that you can work on and grow over time.
People’s thoughts about you or your life are very often projections of what they think of themselves. Don’t take it personally.
Finding compassion for others is the healthiest thing you can do for yourself.
You don’t have to go out if you don’t want to.
There is no situation that you cannot handle better with a bit of tits and teeth.
There is always time for idle chit chat and gossip.
Life is better with music.
Take the time to move slower and more deliberately. It’s time saved in the end.
